As usual, my poll passion dwindled as the days awaiting my reader responses crept along. Either I don't have many readers, or you shy people don't like answering polls! I'd love to believe that latter, but I'm okay with my own reality... really.
Anyhow...
Let's talk about the polls and my position on the results.
We'll start with "What Do You Want Most in 2009," with a whopping two responses. It was a tie between "a job" and "love." I want the job, and I think I know who wants "love." I'd say either response is an honorable one, and if I did, in fact, have a job, a permanent, pay-check producing job... I may have chosen "love" as well. A funny little thing, this thing called "love." This past nine months has been the first time in my adult life that I have had all of the time in the world for it, love, and just about zero desire to seek it! Maybe I'm taking this survival thing to the extreme, maybe I haven't yet decided that I'm ready for it, and maybe I haven't found the one... but one thing is for sure: I still really want that job! And sadly... I know that I am one of hundreds of thousands that feel this exact same way. I want to be able to bring something to the table in a relationship, other than an empty wallet and stomach! And let's face it, love don't pay the bills!
And now... "Where Do You Most Often Eat Your Meals?" 3 responded (myself included) "on the couch," and 1 "at the dining room table." Hardly a large enough pool to provide a truly scientific argument... but, I feel an adequate representation of our eating habits today. Since my first acknowlegment of my own failure to make proper use of my DINING room table, I confess to only sitting at it about three times to eat. Something about sitting at a table with three empty chairs and eating a meal alone reduces the enjoyability of it. I have tried to sit there, simply enjoying a nice hot meal, alone, but I can't help but feel a nagging need to be doing "something else." Doing "something else," like searching for jobs on the internet, checking emails, or reading through research seems inappropriate at the table, and somehow very acceptable on the couch. I'm very aware of my own need to intently focus on the simple pleasures of life, therefore allowing yourself the true enjoyment of them... but I just can't seem to declutter my mind long enough to savor each grain of my oatmeal, or each sweet sip of my "freshly-squeezed," but sat in a cardboard container on a grocery store shelf for three days, orange juice. Even when my Mother and I had dinner here the other night, I refused the grace of my dining room table, this time appeasing her desire to watch T.V. up close and personal.
Eating at the table together is something I think is very UNDER-rated for parents and children. Sharing breakfast, or dinner, at least a few times a week, strengthens the bond of family, and implies a feeling a love and togetherness that every child needs. I can say this, because it is something I longed for. Even television families have ceased to eat at the table together, and look how "filthy" T.V. has become! I'm not saying eating meals at the table together will save the world, but if I even have a temporary visitor, I'm going to cherish that time at the table together.
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I don't see myself being much of a blogger allthough I do enjoy reading a few. Part of me would enjoy venting to unkown readers on the web and be able to use it as a sort of self therapy session. Not that I need therapy because I've got it all figured out (sure). But somehow I feel someone out there would figure me out and ruin the fun. So here I am the non blogger, blogging. I wonder what the doctor would say about that. Then again maybe I'm just shy.
I highly recommend it! There is a great sense of freedom in "letting it all out." When I began this adventure, I protected my identity intently. Slowly, I have exposed my true identity to a select few trusted individuals. I do have to admit that that has lead me to begin the editing again, that I sought to avoid. But, adopting a "who cares" attitude, and just being who you really are, is very empowering, and I have yet to be arrested, or shunned from the world as a result of my blog. Blog on, friend, blog on!
I must confess to being the "love" voter. Surprise surprise.
But really, my opinion on the matter was quite different three years ago, new in town, new job, no house, a beat up car and living paycheck to paycheck.
No way in hell was I going to pursue any kind of relationship until I was settled enough to provide one.
The poll reflects a matter of timing more than true opinion.
I agree, Scott. And it's nice to hear someone else say that. I'm not one to wait until things are obsessively in order to enjoy life, but I think there is something to be said about literal, and figurative stability prior to entering a relationship. They tend to carry on pleasantly and peacefully, instead of becoming a shameful episode of Jerry Springer.
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