A Good Date? Really?!

Went on my Sunday date. The results are in:

I might just go on my first second date since entering the online dating arena!

Woah!

This guy was the first I had gone out with without excessive amounts of emailing. In fact, I didn't even know what he did for a living, and I must say, this is the way to go. If you get wrapped up in too much messaging, you miss out on the "natural" ways of getting to know each other and go into a date with all of these preconceived notions and expectations.

He was cute. We had similar life experiences. He has never been married and has no children and he mentioned that he wants to get married and have kids. Hmmm.

He did seem to be a little nervous. I was his first online date. Apparently, his family has been pressuring him to get dating and his sister in law actually signed him up to the dating site. We had good conversation, and parted with a hug.

"I hope we can do this again sometime," he said.

I hope we can too.

Me, Myself, and Why

It's Saturday night again! Theoretically, I should be on a date, however, I opted to stay home tonight. Why? Because I'm the kind of girl that enjoys peaceful evenings at home... yet another contributing factor to my never-ending singlehood.

Today was just a great day! Simple and great. I slept in. Cooked myself some eggs over easy, toast, and made some fresh ground coffee. The fresh ground coffee indulgence resulted from my train trip and the great date that went nowhere. So again, all was not lost by taking the risk and later receiving a "Dear Jane" email. The "good" guy works for a well known bakery that has it's own coffee line so I picked up a couple bags of beans, and later, a coffee bean grinder, and I've been in coffee heaven ever since!

Later, I went to care for Chester. I was happy to find him awake and watching his beloved basketball intently. He spoke for the first time in months! I got him some A&W Root Beer and some Junior Mints, both of which he helped himself to. I try to encourage him to use his mind since he is unable to move about on his own, so these small feats are very encouraging.

When I arrived home, I made a meat loaf with red peppers, black beans, red onions, and corn. Absolutely delicious it was! Not only did I enjoy eating it, I enjoyed the confidence that some day, I will cook the same thing for someone special, and they will enjoy it too.

Tonight, I committed to meeting an online suitor for dinner in the town I was born in. It's half way for both of us. We haven't chatted an awful lot, so perhaps, this experience will be more exciting because we'll be getting to know each other in person instead of over the wireless waves. I also booked a lunch date with another fellow on Tuesday. We have spoken several times... Sunday's guy is single with no children. Tuesday's guy is divorced with three. We'll see how it goes!

The Fox Hole

I'm back from my date...

I have to say he was cuter than expected, which has been the case for my last three online dates. Not a bad thing, except the rest of the good date goodies seemed to be missing. This fella appeared to be super nervous, was totally unfamiliar with sushi and chopsticks, and told some tales that seemed a bit tall.

Me... I felt pretty, and I was completely comfortable, unlike I felt last week. I kept thinking that if I just would have stuck with my standard ponytail and worn this outfit last week,that maybe things with the good guy would have gone better. But yes, that's a trap, and I'm trying not to fall into it.

Unlike the reported lack of chemistry from Mr. Last Week, this guy not only praised me, he said I looked like Megan Fox(right photo)! I have little clue who the hell she is, but I do know that she has been the "it" girl for men to dream about and rumor has it she is taking Angelina Jolie's Goddess throne. I'm not going to say I'm mad about him saying that, but I will say I'm more inclined to believe he said it in the hopes of winning me over. Considering my girlfriend just yesterday said that when she saw me last summer I reminded her of Jeneane Garofalo (left photo)... I'm gonna guess this guy was hoping flattery would make my skirt fall off.

I can say the food was absolutely amazing and there were many handsome men about town, but, for me, this date, well, it wasn't hot. Seems to be a nice guy, but not for me. So here I sit, in my cute skirt, camisole and cashmere cardigan, typing to mysterious strangers on a Saturday night...

Ah the single life.

Out There

Out there. I'm getting out there!

This morning the sun actually visited my windowsills, and I felt ready to get out there and seize the day! Or clean every nook and cranny of my house, reorganizing everything in sight! For some, that's an easy choice, but for me, that is one serious dilemma. You see, I've spent so much time in my house as a result of the stint of unemployment, mom's cancer, and just plain freezing cold weather, that sometimes leaving seems like too much of a hassle.

But, today, I chose to get out and drove off into the country to give one of my freelance design clients a consultation. She bought a glorious old farmhouse and has gutted it. Now, she is seeking my trusted advice on how to begin finishing walls, trim, and the other magical details that make a home a home. The drive itself was satisfying...

Once I returned to the city, I stopped by Walgreen's to pick up supplies for my impulse decision to wax my upper lip. "Blessed" with a thin blond mustache, I thought I would cave in to social pressure and wax that sucker off. No one has ever really pointed it out, and I'm not sure anyone will even notice that it's gone, but I'll be honest in saying that I rid myself of it just in case it is the one silly thing between me and Mr. Right. Stupid? Perhaps... but let me tell you the pain served well as punishment if it was indeed ignorant. OUCH!

So... feeling an itch to get out and dreaming about sushi, I have committed to a last minute date with a man that has been messaging me for weeks. He seems to have a good personality, but the physical attraction level will remain to be seen. He might have an odd love for studly sunglasses and weird unbuttoned, button down shirts that I don't necessarily share a fondness for... but... I'm willing to give it a try.

I'm meeting him in a town that is a half an hour away at a new sushi restaurant I haven't been to yet. Oh am I ever craving some sushi and wasabi! I've worn jeans on every date thus far, so I think I'll mix it up with a skirt tonight. But, I'm skipping the overdone hair that I feel may have turned off my "good guy" from last week and probably opting for my ponytail. For those of you who have seen the movie "The Ugly Truth," there is a part where Girard Butler tells her that a woman should never wear a ponytail unless she's cleaning a toilet or changing the cat litter... that men don't like it. Well, I really think my Audrey Hepburnish ponytail is cute and sexy... and it's me. So screw him!

We'll see how that works for me....

Great Date- 1 Love Connection- none

Well... just as I suspected, my good guy date wasn't feeling the chemistry. Being the good guy he is, he sent me a nice email confessing so. I hadn't felt any butterflies or tingles either, but, I was willing to go out with him a few times and see if he wasn't just one of those people that become irresistible once you truly know them. My theory was that since what I have been doing for years hasn't worked yet... that I ought try new approaches.

When I had first looked at his photo, I almost clicked right past him, but I took the time to read what he wrote and decided I would give it a go... He had mentioned that he pondered whether or not to contact me for a week... so I believe he was experimenting with being open to those who aren't his "type" as well.

I did enjoy the entire experience so it was worth the risk. He mentioned a future friendship, which would be lovely. Regardless, I have no regrets.

Unfortunately, I haven't come across too many new potential suitors, so as of today, I have no dates on the week's agenda. But this experience has taught me to change my approach and skip all of the time consuming electronic banter. Instead, I'll find out the important stuff, set up a meeting, and move on if the sparks aren't there. Funny how a gal who is so passionate about efficiency got so tangled up in wasting time!